Your health, happiness, and weight management manifest from a unique and complex set of circumstances, events, environments, and living called your life. Everything in your life affects your being–mind, body, and soul. The food on your plate, your activity level, the reasons you eat when you’re not hungry as well as countless other things, all play a role in getting to a healthy weight and keeping it there. Why does weight management stay elusive for many? Perhaps it’s the weight loss excuses we feed ourselves that give us permission to settle for less than our goals.
“It’s easy to come up with reasons why we can’t be happy, why we can’t accomplish a dream, why we can’t overcome a problem. As long as you’re making excuses, you’ll stay where you are. Excuses give us permission to settle for less than God’s best. Get rid of the excuses–you have the power to overcome anything.” — Joel Olsteen Ministries
Ten Common Weight Loss Excuses
I don’t know how to lose weight. I’ve lost weight in the past, but I can’t seem to keep it off. I don’t know how to lose weight and keep it off. Should I work out with weights or bands? Is walking in the neighborhood enough? Do I have to starve myself. Maybe I need a new diet book with recipes to follow. I don’t know! I just don’t know. Is it really worth it?
I don’t really have time exercise. I honestly don’t have time to shop and cook! And, I don’t have time to try new healthy recipes. If I had the time, I’m sure I would be fit, healthy, and unaware of my weight. If I had time, I might even meditate. If I had enough time, I might learn about some of these lifestyle things everyone is saying affects my weight.
I don’t have enough money to buy a gym membership or equipment to use at home. I don’t have enough money to work with personal trainer or health coach. I don’t have enough money to eat healthy food. If I had enough money, I could be healthy and happy, too!
I don’t have weights, bands, balls or other fitness equipment. I don’t even have room in my house for gym equipment if someone gave it to me. It would probably just take up space and collect dust like it does at everyone else’s house. It’s just a big waste of money anyway.
I’m in a place of no return. I’ve put on so much weight that it’s out of my control. The only thing that comes to mind is seeing one of those weight loss doctors. That scares me. I don’t want to have surgery. I don’t think I can afford it anyway. Maybe I can do some things at home to improve my health. I wonder if I should try the diet without bread? Maybe I should try a cleanse? I feel lost, totally overwhelmed. I don’t want to be in the place. I’m too overwhelmed to make any progress at all.
- Fear of Failure
I’ve tried a lot of things in the past. I’ve tried diets, points, shakes, pills, exercise programs, support groups, and having a workout buddy. I know if I try again, I’ll just fail again. I might take off some weight, but I know I’ll be right back here wondering what went wrong. I don’t want to fail again. If I don’t join the gym, I won’t have to go. If I don’t start an exercise program, I won’t have to get off track. If I don’t give a concerted effort to eat healthy, I won’t feel like I let myself down when I splurge or indulge.
I want people to love me for who I am on the inside not what I look like on the outside. I’m ashamed because of something that’s happened in the past that made me feel unloved. I carry that shame with excess weight to hide those deep feelings. I’m not ready to deal with those feelings.
Honestly, I’ll be embarrassed if I leave the house in work out clothes. And can you imagine what they’ll think at work if they see me bringing my lunch and eating healthy food? When people start noticing I’m losing weight, will they congratulate and encourage me while secretly thinking of how fat I’ve become? I know I’ll be out of breath before I get around the block. People will laugh at me. I’m embarrassed thinking about it.
- Not Good Enough
I wear this layer of fat as a beautiful veil covering my inner truth that I am not good enough. I know I’m not good enough because people I loved and trusted have left me. They told me I wasn’t good enough through either their words or actions. I don’t want anyone else to hurt that part of me, so I protect her with an outer covering. If you love me for who I am now, then I am good enough.
- Fear of Being Judged
If I start losing weight and getting healthy, I’ll be judged. People will talk about my weight. They’ll make fun of the way I’m eating. They’ll roll their eyes when I make changes to my regular routines to engage in healthy activities. They’ll say I can’t do it. They’ll say I won’t do it. They’ll say I’m fat for a reason.
How You Can Overcome Weight Loss Excuses
Step 1: Ask yourself if it’s really true. Challenge your beliefs. Will everyone really judge you? Can you live a healthier life without making six figures? Is there a way to get started with just one small step today?
Step 2: Ask yourself why you’re using the excuse. Does believing that you’re not good enough give you permission to live a smaller life? Does losing weight mean you might have to deal with something internal at a deeper level?
Step 3: Ask yourself how you can stop hiding behind that excuse. As for support. Learn to set your intentions and then act on them. Learn to prioritize and organize. Give up procrastination and treating your health as an after thought. Empower yourself to make a difference in your life and in the lives of those around you.
Take a moment to write down the quote at the beginning of this article. Put it in a place where you can read it daily. Ask yourself if you’re using any of the excuses mentioned in this post. Ask yourself what other weight loss excuses are present in your belief system. Ask yourself how you’d help a friend overcome these excuses. Then, be that friend to yourself. “Get rid of the excuses—you have the power to overcome anything.”
Julie Butts is a graduate of the Institute for Integrative Nutrition® (IIN™), the American Fitness Professionals and Associates (AFPA), and the American Council on Fitness (ACE). She is a certified health coach and weight management specialist who combines holistic and conventional wisdom to support women who crave lasting weight loss. Her personal mission is to inspire, educate, and promote lasting weight loss through healthy balanced living. She offers a variety local and online programs to support her clients and is known as The Lifestyle Mentor for Lasting Weight Loss™. Subscribe to her newsletter to receive your free copy of Awareness! Weight Loss Success For The Average Woman and to gain access to her free monthly mentoring calls.